Last night I had a dream about an ex girlfriend...well not just any ex girlfriend if you asked me she was the one...In fact she is a big part of why I ended up at Curry. We had many flaws in our relationship,but one big one is that she was always presenting me with plan B...Now its important to have a plan B...mine was to get my masters and maybe law school, and become a lawyer and do something in constitutional first amendment rights,(Plan C was the run for public office) (Plan D was the open up a restaurant) but a Plan B. should be just that a Plan B. only exercised when Plan A is no longer possible and you've tried everything.
Broadcasting takes time and to alot of people its a waste of time.To others it seems borderline insane, they don't comprehend it,in my case I got the whole "radio is dying." I think my girlfriend at the time didn't believe and that my career path was suitable for her, it wasn't going to provide for her. She really played up on my Plan B's her family would always joke "Are you sure you don't want to be a lawyer thats the only way you could cloth her" her taste for Tiffany's and designer clothes and selfish nature almost ruined my budding passion.
I am glad we aren't together anymore, she served her purpose bringing me to the place I needed to believe, which makes her very important in my journey. In your journey you are going to come across, so many nay sayers, some will be a random person you meet at a party, some will be family, some will be your significant other. Their tactics will be different, here are some examples
The Smirker You know half smile, the kind you give a three year old who gives you an amorphous blob on a paper and tells you excitedly "Thats You!".In this case that half smile is saying awww thats cute, but get real kid.
The Honest Naysayer: Sometimes naysayers will cut the grizzle off the steak and go right for the gusto, the out right laugh and dismissal usually follows the sarcastic Ohhhh Reeeeaalllyy? These are the best because usually they are the best to dismiss.
The Joker This is a mix of the Honest Naysayer and the Smirker...I should also name this, family members, because more than likely a joker will be someone close to you, they don't want to make it seem like they aren't supporting you so they joke about it, and move on quickly. Sometimes the Joker can make you feel the worse, because its the people you rely on the most for support.
The Lawyer This is usually a close friend or family member and I call them the Lawyer because frankly they are laying down motion after motion, argument after argument to get you to dismiss your case for your own future. This one will leave you drained so make sure you have some Gatorade on hand.
I could go on and on, you will encounter many different types of nay-sayers on your journey, there will always people who won't, can't or don't support you because the truth is they don't understand your passion. It's going to hurt alot when you don't feel this connection with some, and it will get worse after being rejected and not in the field for awhile and might make you a little depressed. It did for me. The important thing to take in consideration when dealing with naysayers is why they are being nay sayers...Sometimes its because in frank terms they are just douchebags,most of the time its because they care about you, they want the best for you and they don't want you to get hurt. They want to see you succeed... So show them you can succeed, by turning the off switch every time great Aunt Mable talks about how you would do much better being a manager...or every time for the hundredth time you hear "Even though you have a face for radio, you should become a lawyer" etc etc and achieving your passion and justifying it. The people who really care will quickly get into your camp. Use your encounter with a nay-sayer as a way of reaffirming your passion, use it as a time to communicate with them why, and how you are going to achieve them, if it doesn't convince them, maybe it will give you a chance to reaffirm yourself.
Alright almost time for bed but before I go another tip:
Share your goals, on Facebook, Twitter anywhere. This will allow your visibility to go up and sometimes turn up great leads for you to pursue, you never know who knows who, in your social network.
Keep at it and thanks for the read!
Paul
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